Deciphering Negativity

Posted by on

Exogenous negativity
-
Many, if not all of us will experience negative people in our lives.  They may be family members, friends, acquaintances or merely strangers. The key to handling negativity projected onto you is to not take it personally.  It is best not to engage with negative people, they’ve shown their view and it’s not needed for the route you are headed.  You may quietly trim the fat out of your life by creating distance, there is no need for some spectacular fallout and added drama.
-
Every relationship is based off of giving and receiving; both parties must participate for any relationship to sustain.  People are naturally selfish without realizing it, we all are in our own ways. It takes a level of introspection to recognize that we need to reciprocate and not run our relationships dry. This is how you find who is genuine. You observe.
-
I feel it is important for us to try to give before we receive, to reach out before we retract, and to put in the effort first.  Lead the friendship by example and those who match your effort earn their spot; those who do not, simply fade away.  People grow apart, time goes on, things change, its natural.  Don’t take it personal.  It is what it is.  You are the same person you were before them and you remain as they depart.
-
We struggle to cut ties because we care.  At some level, we feel cruel for separating ourselves.  We must remember that for us to progress, we have to be stern with who we associate with.  We become the company that we keep.  A friend who does not reciprocate is no friend at all, they are leeches and will be removed as such.
-
Throughout my life, I have had numerous friendships dissolve and that’s fine. Most times it has been mutual and we simply grew apart, but others I’ve cut out immediately after I’ve seen their true colors.  People will feel entitled and abuse what a friendship is, don’t settle for shitty people in your life.
 
 
Endogenous Negativity
-
We all have levels of self-doubt, every last one of us.  This is something I struggle with daily.  It is a daily fight to stay on the positive side to life.  It’s all about how we manage it.  We can use it as fuel in a way, as a test of sorts.  How do you change your thinking from constantly second guessing yourself? Decide.  Make a decision and stick with it.  Obviously, do not make a blind decision, but the cause of most self-doubt stems from not knowing where to start…well, that’s because you don’t know where you’re going.
-
Choose a goal, develop a route, pursue it relentlessly.  You will find that there is no perfect route, obstacles will always be present and there will be grass that always appears greener.  We compare.  We begin to question why someone was dealt a better hand than us and self-pity begins to form.  Why do we immediately compare?  Why can’t we be content with our surroundings?  It is because we are constantly striving for better.  If you see someone who is better off than you, look at them as a goal. If you are striving for better, you aren’t complaining about your situation, you’re taking action.  You’re not wasting time creating a mental list of pro’s and con’s about someone else’s life comparative to yours.
-
Develop yourself. Take time to see where you’re lacking and take action to improve that trait.  Build habits that improve your daily routine; clean up your diet, get outside more, go to sleep earlier, read more books…the list is endless.  All you have to do is decide.

← Older Post Newer Post →


Comment


  • 👍🏽👍🏽

    Mike B on

Leave a comment